I'm not judgmental. I remain objective in order to fully help the members.
The symptoms you mentioned could be caused by a yeast infection. Yeast infections could cause itching, pain during urination, clumpy, white discharge along with other symptoms. Sometimes the symptoms of a yeast infection could be mistake for genital herpes vice versa. Herpes or a yeast infection could cause mild red patches. You husband should really see a doctor while the red patch is active. From the symptoms you described it seems like the chances are you don't have genital herpes. Only a doctor is qualified to determine that. The symptoms you mentioned aren't symptoms of HIV. HIV could cause a person to be more prone to catch yeast infections. Yeast infections are very common.
I would strongly suggest that you get tested for HIV and other STDs. It's common for a person to carry an STD and not show symptoms of it. If you have or had HPV you need to get yearly pap smears. HPV is the leading cause of cervical cancer. If you get screened for cervical cancer yearly the chances greatly increase that you will remain health. The chances are greatly that you won't get cervical cancer. If you want to read more about yeast infections go to the following website.
If you have another question let me know. Feel free to let us know how everything is going.